Being a WOMAN | Boudoir Photographer

Why It’s So Hard

Being a woman is beautiful but let’s be honest, it’s hard.

We juggle careers, family, friendships, and the constant pressure to look like we’re holding it all together. Not including how to care for ourselves if often on the back burner. Feeling the guilt of doing what makes us happy. When did self care become guilt? Many of us carry invisible weights. That can include self-esteem, anxiety, and fear of what could be. Sometimes there is a loud voice in our head that we wish we could shut off.

Don’t even get me started on the hormonal changes. Periods, pregnancy, miscarriage, postpartum recovery, menopause… Each stage brings its own challenges, often treated as, “well this is how it is.” We’re expected to be strong but gentle, ambitious but not too ambitious, confident but humble, caregivers who also somehow care for ourselves. And if we speak up about how hard it really is? We’re told we’re complaining or worse, being dramatic.

That’s why talking about it matters, too. I have always had a passion to help who I can. Even if it’s one person. I try to be vulnerable and share my story because most don’t know how I got here. People often describe me as incredible, ambitious, determined, and motivated. That isn’t how it is every single day for me. Sharing our real, messy stories reminds us that we’re not alone. Which has helped countless women at their boudoir session. They have mentioned how awesome it felt to finally open up and share their journey. That the struggle doesn’t mean we’re weak, it means we’re human.

There isn’t an easy way to juggle everything at once. There are ways to cope. That includes walks, an activity, deep breaths, resting, and doing something you know that can help your self-esteem for years to come. Including a boudoir session. I am not only saying this as a photographer but also as someone who felt incredible after a session.

It’s okay to ask for help. I actually think that is brave. I know how hard it is to admit things might not be okay. However, it’s okay to admit you’re not okay. We are all human and will have good days and bad days.